Since I've started to think about life meaning, asking 'The Questions', I've read a lot of books, handbooks and Holy testimonials about life secrets. The biggest, perhaps the most important, is trying to become as empty as a child. Clean your mind, stop to be toughtfull, so you can let the life fulfill yourself...
Therefore, what does a child do?
He approaches life differently: everything is a game, everything is new, he is leaded by his curiosity, his vitality, his energy...
Is it true? Is it really true?
So, let's think about it.
What does he really do?
1) Places. He's centered on himself so London or a small town is the same. Is it good? I guess no. We live in a world made by places and each one of them has his own particularity. It's amazing to soak up it. It's like a recharge.
South Africa lifestyle is different than Los Angeles or Madrid or Tokyo ones.
Can children understand the difference? No.
2) Possession. An adult can fight for what he considers his property, a child can't.
Is it true? I don't want to talk about Bowlby and his psychological theory about the attachment but children don't really know what a share is. Yes, they know it if their parents have taught to him but it's not usual. Possession is fundamental for a child because it helps the creation of his world.
3) Enthusiasm. 'Look at a child: look how he sees the world, his glimpses...'
Really? I just see children who are more involved in what they like than whatever they see. I noticed this morning in a toy store. I went there with my little niece but thanks to her I noticed it even in other children. We were in 'Hamley's toy store' in London, you know, it's the biggest toy store in whole Europe and maybe in the world. Pratically there's every kind of games existing in the world, a lot of more than what a child can imagine.
So, was she amazed by this Heaven? Of course not. Now she's involved into Winx, Violetta and make up stuff and nothing of these were in the store, so?
We just bought a doll and nothing more. And others?
There were children who liked robots, others videogames, others dolls or Lego... but I didn't see that 'glimpse'.
4) Others judgement. Another important point about this 'fairy tale' as we should be like children is that children don't mind other people's judgements.
This tale refferres to fact they live in their own world. Is it real? Really don't they mind?
Ok, have a trial: go to a child and say him his draws are rubbish, he's stupid or something could bother him. Try it.
He'll start to cry because he needs someone else approvals and your disappointment, every your 'no' will be read as a failure of him.
5) Independent. 'Take a look of children: they don't need stuff or other person to play, they can invent their own games'. Sure, even a withdrawn adult can do it but you know how much an adult likes to share his life. Cause human beings are social animals, we live and we move flowing and not alone. And for children it is the same. Get a child and let him play by himself. He does but then he wants to go to his mother or father or someone else to ask for a feedback. And this is because our identity is made by feedbacks.
Therefore, children aren't independent, they need someone could say them what to do and what don't because they don't know how to survive. And this is made by orders, sure, and by feedbacks as well.
I could go ahead for a while but I guess it's enough.
I was really confident that 'Living as a child' was the Secret but now I'm not sure anymore.
- I love going to a place and soak up its energy: it doesn't matter which, everyone has its own features...
- I love having my own things. And for 'things' I mean my house (what a harmful sensation of peace when I come back home and I take a bath...), my games (watching sports on tv pr playing football or videogaming: everytime is a different experiebce), my lovers (I love you honey!!!).
- I love new events. Am I matured enough to stop my mind and enthusiasm myself with every new events. I don't know, surely more than a child.
- I enjoy a new tasty food by an oriental cuisine. I enjoy finding out new tv series or movies or videogames. I enjoy every new person I meet. I enjoy new jobs, new experience. I'm old enough to go somewhere else doing something else new. And enjoy it.
- Yes I consider others judgements but what's the problem? Judgements are the no-written rules of a society and they're the most important. I don't like them? Change (city, friends, job, lovers) what you are. It's impossible if you're a child: you could only cry.
- And, of course, I'm independent. The power of change (what you are, where you live, what you do) is the power of the independence and children don't have it.
So, should I live as a child?
Come on, let's hope no....
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