It's the idea inside Nick Hornby's novel 'About a boy': 'we live in the top of a social pyramid made by all people we know. If one of this gets away we must take him over with somebody else. The stronger the feeling we have, more stable the pyramid is. So, if you lose a brick of your pyramid, go to find someone else quickly'.
Is it really true?
Let's think about it. Everyone of us has got thousands friends or just acquaintances, but only few of them are really bound with us. These people are our familiars, our friends, our colleagues and our bosses and all of them gel our pyramid and our social life altogheter.
So is Hornby right?
I don't think so.
This people complete my pyramid but everyone of them has a different bear on me. I'm gonna score them with a number from 1 (non interested) to 10 (he's even more important than me).
For example.
- My wife: 10
- My brother: 9
- My friend Piace: 7
and so on till a friend I don't hang anymore but I used to go with. As a former fiancée, for instance: 1.
Every one has a number and this number has been made by his behaviours with me or by his thoughts or by the idea I got of him.
What if a 8 gets away? Can I take him over with a 4? Or a 6? Of course not.
Whether a 10 flies away from me (as my sister died last year) I must realize she's not with me at first, then I can reshape mypyramid increasing numbers of somebody or allowing estranger to come in. But a stranger is supposed to match the previous score or being even more than. Only then my pyramid will have a new balance.
I can't switch a person with another one. We are not bricks, we are humans withfeelings. And we weep. Infact, we mees to wep.
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